COUPLES IN CONFLICT
for couple therapists and for
therapists who usually work one to one and
want to explore more about working with couples
ONLINE WORKSHOP OVER 3 DAYS
DATES Wed 23, Thur 24 & Fri 25 November 2022
TIMES: 1.15pm(BST) for 1.30pm(BST) start until 6.30pm(BST) each day.
N.B. Please log onto zoom each day at 1.15pm(BST) so you are ready to start at 1.30pm(BST). The workshop aims to finish at 6.30pm(BST) on each day, but please allow an extra 30 minutes at the end of each day in case the workshop runs over. These are UK times.
BREAKS
Generally, each day will include two breaks of about fifteen minutes each, and a five minute break.
PRE COURSE WORK
There is a film for you to watch as preparation, in advance of the workshop that is 27 minutes long. There is no other homework for this course.
LOCATION: Online
COST £199 if booked by 23 September 2022,
£215 if booked by 23 October 2022,
£235 Full Price
TRAINER: Scroll down to see more about the trainer
CONTENT OF THE COURSE:
By the end of this course you will have
- Examined conflict, and different styles that couples use
- Thought about the benefits of arguing, and couples who avoid conflict
- Explored Sue Parker Halls thoughts about the difference between anger and rage, including hot & cold rage
- Briefly discussed the stress response: fight flight freeze and appease
- Explored strategies for resolving conflict
- Thought about some issues for the therapist working with domestic violence
- Experienced using a ‘couple pot’ for exploring issues of rage
- Explored some of John Gottman’s ideas about the Masters of Marriage and the Masters of Disaster
This course is based on work by Susan Quillam, Sue Parker Hall & John Gottman
PRACTICE SESSION FOR USING ZOOM:If you require a ‘technology’ practice session please email Bernd Leygraf at contact.gettingbetter@gmail.com
ABOUT THE TRAINER:
Tutor: Bernd Leygraf – Consultant Psychotherapist co-founded a number of organisations (London Men’s Forum, UK Standing Conference on Sexual Abuse of Men, the Centre for Personal and Professional Development, the Whittington Hospital Psychotherapy Clinic, the Hungarian Gestalt Association, NAOS Institute). He co-authored with Judi Keshet-Orr the first MSc in Humanistic Psychotherapy and the first Masters programme in Psychosexual & Relationship Therapy in the UK. He also authored or co-authored, as well as led, several masters programmes in the UK, primarily at South Bank University, Middlesex University, Westminster and the University of Surrey. He was external examiner to various universities in the UK.
A former Chair of the Professional Standards and Accreditation Board at the European Association for Counselling, and Ethics Committee of COSRT, Bernd works currently with trainees, from over 40 countries. He is familiar with and interested in working with issues of cultural difference. His principal influences in sexological and couples work are David Schnarch, Joseph Zinker, Ellen Bader, Judith Hemming, Joan Lachkar, Judi Keshet-Orr and, as ever, his clients.
Bernd is proud to have supported – alongside Judi – a significant number of sex and couples therapists in shaping their own professional identities and careers – both in the UK and further afield; some even have moved into offering specialist sex addiction clinics; others are now trainers in this field in their own right.
Bernd is delighted to be (founder and) Honorary Member of the Hungarian Gestalt Association. Clinically speaking Bernd focuses on working with celebrity clients, and on men in leadership, both nationally and globally.
MAXIMUM NUMBERS: This workshop will have a maximum of 30 participants
APPROVED FOR CPD: This course has been approved by COSRT – College Of Sex And Relationship Therapists – for 14 hours CPD
SLIDES AND EXERCISES: The exercises and handouts will be sent to you approximately 1 week before the workshop. Please print out for yourself these BEFORE the workshop. If you don’t have access to a printer and want us to print and post these to you, we can do this for a charge of £8 in the UK (£10 in Europe). Please pay here £12.00 in the UK, £15 in Europe, and email sambaker.pa@gmail.com to let us know that you need this. Please give us 2 weeks notice to prepare and post these.
SECOND SET OF HANDOUTS: After the workshop you will be asked to fill in a feedback form. Completing this feedback form will give you a link to further handouts. Please write this link and password down, as you will need these to access the webpage where this comprehensive set of handouts are stored. These handouts are available for you to download a copy onto your own desktop. You must complete the download within two weeks of the end of the workshop. We ask you not to share any of the slides, exercises or handouts with other professionals who have not attended the workshop. But you are welcome to share the occasional handout or page with clients.
PRACTICE AT BEING A THERAPIST: One feature of our Working With Couples workshops is that there is an opportunity for everyone to practice being a therapist once during the training. We will continue this in the online world using Zoom Breakout rooms.
EQUIPMENT YOU WILL NEED:We will use Zoom, so you would need a computer that has good enough internet access to be able to be online, and in a quiet spot where you won’t be disturbed. It would be preferable if there are no people walking around in the background. An Iphone can be used in an emergency, but we recommend planning on using a laptop or computer. Tablets also work, though please be aware that they have less functionality in Zoom. You will need access to a printer to print the handouts (Please see Slides and Exercises above).
THIS COURSE, AND WORKING ONLINE: This course is not intended to be a comprehensive workshop about how to work couples online. Our focus in these workshops is working with couples, and up until now this has always been face to face. Having said that, implicitly you will experience handling online technology, and will be doing ‘couples therapy’ roleplay in 3’s – where one is the therapist and two role play a couple – in breakout rooms. This mirrors doing couples therapy online, and will give you some skills practice at doing that.
SIX MODULES ON HOW TO WORK WITH COUPLES: This course is part of the six module workshop organised by Juliet Grayson, for people who want to learn about working with couples or enhance their current skills. For more info about the other modules go to https://therapyandcounselling.co.uk/certificate-in-working-with-couples/
CANCELLATIONS: Any request to change (eg defer to alternative dates) or cancel your place at a workshop, that is made at less than 21 days before the course start date will be charged in full. Any cancellation / amendments / requests to defer before 21 days, will be subject to a 12.5% handling charge.
FOR MORE INFO: Look at https://therapyandcounselling.co.uk/certificate-in-working-with-couples/ or email: sambaker.pa@gmail.com or call Juliet Grayson on 01291 638805
CPD FORM: A Certificate of Attendance form for Continuous Professional Development will be sent by email once you have filled in the feedback form. Please let us know when you book your 6th workshop in the Working With Couples series. We will ask you to return the 5 certificates from the other workshops, and we will prepare a smart Certificate in Couples Therapy that you can hang on your wall.
FINAL CERTIFICATE: When you have completed all 6 workshops you can apply to have a smart Certificate in Couples Therapy to hang on your wall. To claim this: please let us know when you book your 6th workshop in the Working With Couples series. We will ask you to return the 5 certificates from the other workshops. For more info see here: https://therapyandcounselling.co.uk/final-certificate