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A Modular Workshop for Working with Couples, run by Juliet Grayson, Bernd Leygraf, Nicola Jones, Diane Hassall, Zofia Zyborska and Murray Blackett.

Each module is approved for 14 hours CPD by NCIP- National Council Of Integrative Psychotherapists.

WATCH A PRERECORDED WEBINAR: Working With Couples: Why Bother?
You can watch Juliet Grayson talking about some of the issues of working with couples, including some of the content from each of the 6 modules. The video is 1 hour. You can claim a CPD certificate for watching it. Go to https://jandw.thinkific.com/. You will need to create a free account first of all. The, to watch this webinar for free, use the code free_wwc to watch it (saving yourself £3)

FEEDBACK FROM PARTICIPANTS

“Thank you for the incredibly inspiring and galvanising training over the weekend. That was my second module and just like last time I’ve already found myself bringing in some of the learning in my work with individuals this week. Bernd, your energy and whole approach emanates a contagious strength and faith in the power of people and in the work itself – I’m very grateful to you for that.”

Rosie Dee PGDip MBACP

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THE MODULES

This is a description of Juliet’s modular workshop. There are six modules. Each module lasts for two days if face to face, or three shorter days if online. If you attend all the modules you will receive a Certificate In Couples Therapy. However, whilst some people will attend this as a whole course, participants are also welcome to attend just for one module, or two modules. We have been running these courses (with minor tweaks and changes over the years to keep them up to date), since about 2002, and they were first accredited in about 2006!

For course dates coming up: click here. Each module costs £209 (if you get the very early booking discount), £229 with an early booking discount, or £249 full price. These are available online across 3 days.

The Certificate in Couples Therapy Course is designed for people who usually work one to one, and want to work with couples…or those who are doing some work with couples and would like to update their skills. We have had great feedback from people who have been couples therapists for years, who attended our workshops, and found them enlightening and beneficial. At the other end of the spectrum, counsellors sometimes come who have no intention working with couples, they attend these courses for their own learning about relationships (as they say, their clients are all in relationships – so these courses really help them with their clients…..and they are in relationships themselves too!!!).

All six modules are run several times each year, by one or all of the trainers: Bernd Leygraf, Nicola Jones, Diane Hassall, Zofia Zyborska and Murray Blackett. The six modules can be taken in any order, and you do not need to take them all. Some people take 4 or 5 years to complete all 6 modules. You decide what you want to book based on your personal needs, diary and finances. Each module is endorsed by NCIP- National Council Of Integrative Psychotherapists. for 14 hours CPD .

Certificate in Couples Therapy: The Six Modules

NB The Fundamentals module does NOT have to be taken first. The modules can be taken in any sequence

A. The Fundamentals of Working With Couples for Therapists/Health Professionals who Usually Work One to One.

B. Communication and Difference

C. Sex and Ageing

D. Meeting Their Partner’s Needs

E. Couples and Conflict

F. Dealing with Affairs

The Fundamentals of Working With Couples
for Therapists, Coaches and Health Professionals who Usually Work One-to- One

Two days when in person face to face, three days when online, the first day is all about relationships and on the second day we discuss sex and different sexual dysfunctions, and how they can be treated.

By the end of the course you will have explored:

What to expect when working with couples
Differentiation and emotional fusion
Decentring: a method for working with couples
How to start the couple communicating
How to help the couple negotiate
Framework for understanding relationships dynamics
Patterns of intimacy
Learn about sexual arousal circuit and low sexual desire

Communication and Difference
Understanding different styles of thinking & different ways of approaching things

Based on the de-centring model of Dr Michael Crowe and Jane Ridley; and on meta-programmes from Neuro-Linguistic Programming.

This course also uses video of a therapist working with a couple.

By the end of the workshop you will have:

Understood how we each create our own reality, our ‘map of the world’
Watched and analysed a video of a couple using decentring and communication skills
Practiced listening for values, and helping a couple to discover shared values
Learnt about 5 different thinking styles (meta-programmes) that people use
Understood how meta-programme differences can be a significant source of conflict
Learn what your personal meta-programme preferences are
Learn about language patterns that make communication easier
Practiced working with these issues in a role play situation

Meeting Their Partner’s Needs
Exploring How People Get Their Needs Met In Relationships

Based on work by Anthony Robbins and Harville Hendrix

Delegates will be asked to fill in a questionnaire to help explore their own attachment style

This course also uses video of a therapist working with a couple

By the end of the workshop you will have :

Understood the 6 needs according to Human Needs Psychology
Looked at where you are with regards to these needs
Thought about the stages of a relationship
Have watched and discussed some video of Anthony Robbins working
Discussed the ‘imago’ concepts of Harville Hendrix and Helen Hunt
Learned about ‘maximisers’ and ‘minimisers’
Explored developmental stages (attachment theory), and couple dynamics
Practiced working with these issues as a therapist

NB Juliet runs a separate day called Parent Infant Attachment and the Impact on Relationships. This has different content and is complementary to ‘Meeting Their Partner’s Needs’ which is more about the Developmental Stages than the early Attachment Issues.

Dealing with Affairs
Based on work by Rona Subotnik, Gloria Harris, Kate Epstein and the work of David Schnarch

By the end of the workshop you will have:

Understood the prevalence of affairs, and different types of affair
Explored some of the reasons why they happen
Thought about common reactions to an affair
Considered the ‘therapist’s job’ when working with this topic
Looked at distorted and defeatist beliefs
Explored what is required in saying sorry and forgiveness
Explored how the process of differentiation affects affairs, integrity and blame
Practiced working with these issues as a therapist

Couples and Conflict
Based on work by Susan Quillam and David Schnarch

By the end of the course you will have:

Examined conflict, and different styles that couples use
Thought about the benefits of arguing, and couples who avoid conflict
Explored Sue Parker Halls model about anger and rage, including hot & cold rage
Explored strategies for resolving conflict
Thought about some issues for the therapist working with domestic violence
Experienced using a ‘couple pot’ for exploring issues of rage
Explored John Gottman’s ‘Masters of Marriage’ and the ‘Masters of Disaster’
Learnt about Grayson’s Five Star Model of Conscious Relating

Sex, Arousal and Ageing

By the end of this course you will have

Thought about sexual drive, desire, arousal and orgasm
Looked at anatomy of cis men, cis women, people who are intersex and transgender
Considered the sexual excitation centre (turn-ons) and the sexual inhibition centre (turn offs)
Understood how context affects sexual functioning
Looked at childhood development and sexual scripts
Learnt about the ageing process with regards to sexual functioning
Considered what is within the scope of a couples therapist, and what issues would need referring to a psychosexual therapist
Practiced role play situations discussing sex, sexuality or ageing

PRECOURSE WORK AND HOMEWORK

As a part of the workshops, there will also be an additional pre course work or homework to be done in your own time, during the workshop. Please allow time for this. Here is a list of what is required for each module.

Couples in Conflict: Pre course work: Watch 27 mins video before the workshop. Homework on night 1: watch a 15 minute video
Communication and Difference: Fill in questionnaire at the end of day 1 approx. 20 minutes. No other homework.
Dealing with Affairs: Pre course work: Questionnaire 10 mins. Also watch video: 22 minutes. No other homework.
Fundamentals of Working with Couples: Pre course work: Fill in questionnaire 15 mins. Watch a 20 minute video before the workshop.
Meeting Their Partner’s Needs: At end of day 1 watch video 60 minutes. At the end of day 2 fill in questionnaire 20 minutes. No other homework.
Sex Arousal and Ageing. Pre course Work: none. There is a film we recommend you watch called Hope Springs with Meryl Streep and Tommy Lee Jones. There is homework at the end of Day 2 (approx 1 hour filling in forms).

To see all the available dates that these workshops for the Certificate in Counselling Couples are being run please go to https://therapyandcounselling.co.uk/

To see Juliet Grayson’s book about her experience of working with couples: Landscapes of the Heart: The working world of a sex and relationship therapist, please click here