Things of interest

On this page there are vidoes, that make me laugh, move me, or that I want to let others know about. There are also articles that I think are useful. The funny videos are lower down.

The piece on becoming an adult was recorded while Campbell was dying of esophageal cancer. An astonishing gift – but also a remarkable example of actually ‘living your bliss’ right down to the point of death.

GRIEF
David Kessler interviews people about Grief:  includes guilt, addiction, death by suicide, grief in the body, death of a parent, spouse, sibling, child and so much more. This is a free podcast series grief.com/podcasts or on Spotify at Healing with David Kessler.

• William Shatner
• Ashley Judd
• Will Reeve from GMA (Christopher Reeve’s son)
• Craig Melvin from the Today Show
• Tyler Henry
• Dr. Edith Eger, Holocaust survivor, and psychologist
• Dr Laura Berman
• And others
  

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  TRAUMA

Connecting to Babies

Watch how babies connect socially and emotionally to the loving caregivers in their lives, starting from birth!
https://www.zerotothree.org/resources/379-connecting-with-babies

Serious Videos

MICRO-EXPRESSIONS: THIS IS A SKILL LINKED TO WITNESSING
https://www.microexpressionstest.com/micro-expressions-test

ONLINE COGNITIVE FUNCTION TEST by Patrick Holfords organisation
http://cft3.foodforthebrain.org/

WE ARE THE LIONS by Steve Connell
About domestic violence, as he says, “Violence against women needs to end where it begins… at the hands, in the hearts and in the minds of men.”
https://youtu.be/PscD6h1iNiI

A SURVIVOR OF SEXUAL ASSAULT SPEAKS OUT
A survivor of sexual assault speaking out against Sessions joining Trumps cabinet. An impressive piece.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mS-CjW8RomM
In the USA people get to put views forward about the people that Trump is picking for his cabinet, and Amita Swadhin spoke.

LECTURE BY AL PESSO: PART 1 (30 minutes) https://youtu.be/EfxfQ_j3wL0 PART 2 (24 Minutes) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l2NGJnSuf0Y Parts 1 & 2 of a video of a January 2015 introductory lecture by Al Pesso on making new memories to a PBSP experiential group in Birmingham, Alabama, USA. “Created in 1961 by Albert Pesso and Diane Boyden-Pesso, Pesso Boyden System Psychomotor (PBSP) is the an advanced therapeutic system available for emotional re-education or reprogramming. PBSP heals past emotional deficits using unique processes called ‘Structures’ and ‘Microtracking™’ that help clients to identify emotional deficits and create ‘new memories’. These ‘new memories’ provide symbolic fulfillment of the basic developmental needs of place, nurture, support, protection and limits. With the inclusion of ‘Holes and Roles,’ the latest innovation in PBSP theory and technique, therapists learn how to provide a highly effective and streamlined approach to reducing resistance, negative transference, and somatic overload. Many aspects of PBSP theories and techniques have close parallels in recent neuroscience findings about mirror neurons, empathy, morality, and the impact of language on the theory of mind. At age 85, Albert Pesso is one of three living masters of body psychotherapy. His contributions to the field over the past 50 years are innumerable; he has written or contributed to almost a dozen books and written more than 50 articles along with leading seminars worldwide in the Pesso Boyden System Psychomotor (PBSP) mind body approach he co-founded with his wife, Diane Boyden-Pesso. Pesso was honored as the 7th recipient of the United States Association for Body Psychotherapy’s Lifetime Achievement Award during the August 2012 USABP Conference in Boulder, Colorado

SCHIZOPHRENIA To all appearances, Eleanor Longden was just like every other student, heading to college full of promise and without a care in the world. That was until the voices in her head started talking. Initially innocuous, these internal narrators became increasingly antagonistic and dictatorial, turning her life into a living nightmare. Diagnosed with schizophrenia, hospitalized, drugged, Longden was discarded by a system that didn’t know how to help her. Longden tells the moving tale of her years-long journey back to mental health, and makes the case that it was through learning to listen to her voices that she was able to survive. Eleanor Longden overcame her diagnosis of schizophrenia to earn a master’s in psychology and demonstrate that the voices in her head were “a sane reaction to insane circumstances.http://video.ted.com/talk/podcast/2013/None/EleanorLongden_2013.mp4

WILL I BE PRETTY Katie Makkai addresses this issue.http://www.upworthy.com/this-womans-beef-with-prettiness-will-leave-you-speechless?g=2

Non Binary Gender: excellent talk by Dr Meg Barker on non-binary genders. There is a growing trend now among the younger Trans* generation to challenge the rigid binaries of male and female and increasing numbers are exploring genderqueering; androgynous and other non-binary identities. This video in very straight forward language explains a bit more:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Lu7aRvhM-Ng&feature=youtu.be

Gender Neutral Pronouns https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=46ehrFk-gLk

Realism is best…the danger and delusion of mandatory optimism and the oversimplification of that: a 10 minute videohttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u5um8QWWRvo&feature=youtu.be

MARINA AND ULAY: At her 2010 MoMa retrospective Marina performed ‘The Artist Is Present’ as part of the show, where she shared a minute of silence with each stranger who sat in front of her. Ulay arrived without her knowing and this is what happened. [The back story: Marina Abromovic and Ulay started an intense love story in the 70s, performing art out of the van they lived in. When they felt the relationship had run its course, they decided to walk the Great Wall of China, each from one end, meeting for one last big hug in the middle and never seeing each other again]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OS0Tg0IjCp4

Panti, the drag queen..on homophobiahttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WXayhUzWnl0

TRANSGUY AND HIS MOTHER Wonderfully upbeat and inspiring video here about Tayler who is a young transguy who has been successfully transitioning as a pre-teen – meet him and his awesome mum in this short film: (video 7 1/2 mins duration) https://plus.google.com/u/0/102131611418022733086/posts/aXNkFHZ19pw

POEM FROM A MAN WITH OCD: VERY MOVING The video is just under three minutes duration – really worth the watch.http://gawker.com/man-with-ocd-blows-internet-away-with-hauntingly-stirri-1111560858

Mandatory Optimism and the oversimplification of that 10 minute videohttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u5um8QWWRvo&feature=youtu.be

NELSON MANDELA Compassionusing rugby to unite a nation:

Great Talk on VULNERABILITY:Brene Brown on Vulnerability, a great TED TALK

Heartfelt playing by Nigel North playing on his lute Sarabande from Partita in G minor. Worth watchingNigel North, on the Lute, Playing Weiss

Serious Articles

A great article, that talks about how lasting relationships come down to two things, kindness and generosity: http://www.businessinsider.com/lasting-relationships-rely-on-2-traits-2014-11?IR=T

Can’t get an erection? You might have heart disease. Erectile dysfunction is a common but little-known warning sign for heart attacks and strokes. Seeking help early could save your life, as one man found out: Guardian article is worth a readhttp://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2014/feb/14/cant-get-erection-might-have-heart-disease#start-of-comments

For victims of sexual abuse. This is an online resource that is free of charge, and is an illustrated book – stories of courage, self-compassion hope after rape and sexual abuse. Click on the left hand copy to read this, at no cost. http://ninaburrowes.com/books/the-courage-to-be-me/

Recent studies suggest that reading literature may make us smarter and more empathic, even more civic-minded. But what can literature tell us about love? Writers in a variety of genres share the books that taught them about love — and a few that led them memorably astray.http://www.nytimes.com/2014/02/09/books/review/a-sentimental-education.html?_r=1

An American article about how many children are being misdiagnosed with ADHD when they are actually dealing with trauma issueshttp://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2014/07/how-childhood-trauma-could-be-mistaken-for-adhd/373328/?utm_source=SFFB

How many teenagers are using Ask.fm to self harm?http://www.newstatesman.com/sci-tech/2013/08/how-many-teenagers-are-using-askfm-self-harm

Twelve Rules for New Graduates written by a friend of mine, Michael Watkins, author of The First Ninety Days: Critical Success Strategies for New Leaders at All Levelshttp://blogs.hbr.org/cs/2013/05/twelve_rules_for_new_grads.html

BBC News – Zurich introduces ‘drive-in’ sex

Why are this generation unhappy? When our reality is better than expected we feel happy, when the reality does not meet expectations we feel frustrated, resentful and disillusioned. This is written about work, but applies to relationships and life too http://www.huffingtonpost.com/wait-but-why/generation-y-unhappy_b_3930620.html

BBC News – How does a polyamorous relationship between four people work?

Until there’s a law on revenge porn, keep your kit on The German court that ruled that intimate pictures should be deleted if a partner wishes has opened an important debatehttp://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2014/may/25/revenge-porn-pictures-german-court-case?utm_source=All+Wales+Sexual+Health+Network+Contacts&utm_campaign=b8bbcd58a1-Week+in+Review+%E2%80%93+26th+May+%26+2nd+June+2014&utm_medium=email&utm_term=0_feb6628903-b8bbcd58a1-18911309

The truth about women and sex : They start younger and have more partners – and those are not necessarily menhttp://www.independent.co.uk/news/science/the-truth-about-women-and-sex–they-start-younger-and-have-more-partners–and-those-are-not-necessarily-men-8962997.html?utm_source=All+Wales+Sexual+Health+Network+Contacts&utm_campaign=b8bbcd58a1-Week+in+Review+%E2%80%93+26th+May+%26+2nd+June+2014&utm_medium=email&utm_term=0_feb6628903-b8bbcd58a1-18911309

Masturbation: the secret to a long life? Betty Dodson says self-love keeps her young. Now the 85-year-old has a new audience of fourth-wave feminists enrolling in workshops she first ran in the 1970shttp://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2014/may/05/masturbation-secret-to-a-long-life-betty-dodson-self-love

We’re at a tipping point for transgender equality An unstoppable impulse is about to sweep away traditional ideas of gender – and we’ll all benefithttp://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2014/may/30/tipping-point-transgender-equality?utm_source=All+Wales+Sexual+Health+Network+Contacts&utm_campaign=b8bbcd58a1-Week+in+Review+%E2%80%93+26th+May+%26+2nd+June+2014&utm_medium=email&utm_term=0_feb6628903-b8bbcd58a1-18911309

What a shaman sees in a mental hospital…a shamanic view of mental illness http://earthweareone.com/what-a-shaman-sees-in-a-mental-hospital/

Women on the pill have more to worry about than fancying their partner The hormonal impacts of taking contraceptive medication for years on end are neither properly understood nor reported: A recent study is here to tell you that your birth control, might be making your boyfriend ugly. More specifically, the science suggests that a woman taking the pill when she meets her boyfriend might find him less attractive when she stops taking it, especially if he wasn’t all that hot to begin with.http://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2014/nov/19/women-pill-partner-hormonal-impacts-contraceptive-medicine?CMP=share_btn_link

Research reveals more than half of young women who have abortions were using contraception when they fell pregnanthttp://mariestopes.org/media/research-reveals-more-half-young-women-who-have-abortions-were-using-contraception-when-they

The darker side of Fifty Shades: a rise in Sexually Transmitted Infections among over-45shttp://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/health-and-families/health-news/the-darker-side-of-fifty-shades-a-rise-in-stis-among-over45s-9433820.html?utm_source=All+Wales+Sexual+Health+Network+Contacts&utm_campaign=b8bbcd58a1-Week+in+Review+%E2%80%93+26th+May+%26+2nd+June+2014&utm_medium=email&utm_term=0_feb6628903-b8bbcd58a1-18911309

BBC News – Will we ever want to have sex with robots?

Drug Prevention 4 Teens http://www.justice.gov/dea/pr/multimedia-library/publications/prevention4teens.pdf

Addiction Prevention: 34 Essential Lesson Plans for Educators http://www.newbeginningsdrugrehab.org/addiction-prevention-lesson-plan-guide/

Alternative Treatments for Addiction http://www.healthyplace.com/alternative-mental-health/addictions/alternative-treatments-for-addiction/

Teen Depression – A Guide for Parents http://www.helpguide.org/mental/depression_teen.htm

Society for the Prevention of Teen Suicide http://www.sptsusa.org/

The ups and downs of porn: sexism, relationships and sexual aggression | Nathalia Gjersoe | Science | theguardian.com

Sex In Prisons: Prisoners who have sex in jail face separation, commission finds Review of sex in prisons hears that separation policy thought to be discriminatory towards openly gay prisoners

Commissioned by Howard League for Penal Reform: Sex In Prisons

Growing old with HIV New research reveals that the first generation of older people living with HIV feels ashamed and isolated

Nearly quarter of men in Asia-Pacific admit to committing rape Survey shows extent of sexual violence in region where 70% of men report facing no legal consequences

Sex for people who are disabled: article and 40 minute audio programme: Disabled panellists Asta Philpot, Daryl Beeton and Kirsty Liddiard talk sex and relationships with presenters Rob Crossan and Kate Monaghan.

Living with anxiety: Britain’s silent epidemic Up to a third of the population will suffer from an anxiety disorder or panic attacks at some point in their life. But what are we all so afraid of?

“Though antidepressants are effective at managing negative emotions, they don’t in themselves provide the sense of meaning and direction that a person equally needs in order to find her way in life.” An interesting BOOK REVIEW

Why CEO’s don’t want coaching

Zen and the Art Of Management: Meditation in the corporate world http://www.ft.com/cms/s/2/32e0b9b4-1c5f-11e3-8894-00144feab7de.html#axzz2h9vKlLIP

Childline to teach all children in primary schools about sexual abuse

Access Academic Articles for free: Open Access Library which is a search engine for almost all the available Open Access articles

TRANSGENDER INFORMATION: online archives with loads of information http://transgenderarchives.uvic.ca/

Cyber Self Bullying: “…most adults want to blame the problems that they see on technology rather than recognise that youth are simply using technology to enact a whole host of social and emotional issues that they’re facing” …. “Technology mirrors and magnifies the good, bad, and ugly about everyday life but it’s much easier to blame the technology than to look deeper. Unfortunately, I’ve found that even experts would prefer to talk about what technology ‘does’ to youth rather than what it makes visible about youth culture.”

Men tend to leave their wives when they get sick, women are more loyal! http://consumer.healthday.com/public-health-information-30/marriage-health-news-462/in-sickness-and-in-health-may-only-apply-to-wives-study-says-687345.html#.U2bwoeC5Ixs.twitter

Adultery: How many visits does the ‘cheaters dating site’ Ashley Maddison get per month do you think? Ashley Maddison is a website specifically dedicated to people who are married and want to have an affair with someone who understands discretion is of paramount importance. It’s a website specifically designed for people to cheat on their relationships and guess what – its incredibly successful. Interestingly, its demographic is biased towards well educated and professional people who actually have lower stats for infidelity than blue collar workers. This article highlights some interesting data from a piece of research by the academic and researcher Eric Anderson who is now working with the site owners.http://www.washingtonpost.com/blogs/wonkblog/wp/2014/05/01/the-economics-of-adultery/

Greenpeace 2013 highlights http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=PovV81lbLQ0

A mission to save marriages Nicky and Sila Lee help couples to stay together by running marriage courses. There’s no counselling, no airing of dirty linen in public, no group therapy – and it seems to work. [note from Juliet, I don’t know this work at all, but it seems low cost and might be wroth giving it a go]http://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2013/dec/28/mission-to-save-marriages

Womens Aid: Domestic Violence – A Survivors Handbook http://www.womensaid.org.uk/domestic-violence-survivors-handbook.asp?section=000100010008000100310003

Post Traumatic Stress Disorder – The Impact of Events Scale: To Measure PTSD http://consultgerirn.org/uploads/File/trythis/try_this_19.pdf

Virginity for sale: inside Cambodia’s shocking trade On the margins of the sex industry, an ugly market in virginity has emerged in Cambodia in which rich and powerful men coerce desperate mothers into selling their daughters’ innocencehttp://www.theguardian.com/society/2014/jul/06/virginity-for-sale-cambodia-sex-trade?utm_source=All+Wales+Sexual+Health+Network+Contacts&utm_campaign=22d705d17f-Week+in+Review+30th+June+2014&utm_medium=email&utm_term=0_feb6628903-22d705d17f-18911309

Empathy and Mirror Neurones explained http://www.upworthy.com/if-you-thought-someone-couldnt-explain-empathy-with-a-dry-erase-marker-youre-wrong

The Power of Empathy https://vimeo.com/81492863The audio of this RSA short is of Dr Brené Brown who spoke at the RSA on The Power of Vulnerability (thersa.org/events/audio-and-past-events/2013/the-power-of-vulnerability). She talks about the difference between sympathy and empathy and argues that to be truly empathetic you have to be vulnerable by connecting with someone’s pain in yourself. Animated and directed by Katy Davis (AKA Gobblynne).

Far From the Tree – a review of a book about parental love of a child who is very different from you (eg gay, dwarf, schizophrenic etc)http://www.theguardian.com/books/2013/jan/23/review-far-from-the-tree

Sexual Health Research Network launches podcast series: The Sexual Health Research Network has started a series of podcasts. Available to download via iTunes or from the SHRN website, the SHRN are aiming to have at least one podcast a month.

A recording of Ruth Hallam-Jones and Juliet Grayson in conversation with Sally Turner for the Vulval Pain Society.

Sexual Medicine – the new peer-reviewed open access journal from ISSM.

The Guardian – How many people haven’t had sex in the past month?

BBC World Service Documentary (audio) on Boys for Rent in UK with info about prices etc..I found it very interesting

Sexual Stuff Statistics: from the All Wales Sexual Health Network

Jeanette Winterson: can you stop the menopause? After two years of mental breakdown, I was physically depleted, unable to sleep and my hair was falling out. Was my only choice HRT? Or was there a natural alternative?http://www.theguardian.com/books/2014/apr/11/jeanette-winterson-can-you-stop-the-menopause

Testosterone for Women: At 60, taking testosterone has made me vibrant and sexual with healthy hair and baby-soft skin’: Can the male hormone really transform a woman’s looks, life and libido? Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2574273/Could-male-hormone-testosterone-transform-womans-looks-life-libido.html#ixzz2zk5I9rPX Follow us: @MailOnline on Twitter | DailyMail on Facebook http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2574273/Could-male-hormone-testosterone-transform-womans-looks-life-libido.html

How many middle aged men need testosterone http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-27123812

What medication will affect your libido, i.e. your sex drive? A list from the International Society for Sexual Medicine: A list can be found here

A novel look at how stories change the brain. “We already knew that good stories can put you in someone else’s shoes in a figurative sense. Now we’re seeing that something may also be happening biologically,” says neuroscientist Gregory Berns.http://esciencecommons.blogspot.co.uk/2013/12/a-novel-look-at-how-stories-may-change.html

The before and after photos related to weight loss…the truth about losing a lot of weight and the spare skin you can be left with http://www.huffingtonpost.com/candice-russell/before-and-after-weight-loss_b_5332831.html?ncid=fcbklnkushpmg00000046&ir=Women

A guy with OCD – very passionate…speaking a poem – wonderful http://m.wimp.com/ocdpoem/

It’s easy to label Jimmy Saville an abuser, but if we are to avoid future abusers like him we must try to understand him http://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2014/jun/26/inside-the-mind-of-jimmy-savile

Severe Symptoms of Testosterone Deficiency May Signal Higher Cardiovascular and Metabolic Risk: Spanish researchers have examined the link between the degree of low testosterone symptoms and cardiovascular/metabolic risk. They questioned whether men with mild or no symptoms of testosterone deficiency syndrome (TDS) would have the same cardiovascular risks as those with more severe symptoms. The answer is men with low testosterone have a higher risk of metabolic syndrome and a higher cardiovascular riskhttp://internationalsocietyofsexualmedicine.cmail2.com/t/j-l-iktkujk-utlyliii-o/

Funny Videos

THREE OF THE HARDEST THINGS TO SAY _ 14 seconds
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0nPF_oo6w_c&ab_channel=MaayanHaim

CONFESSIONS OF A JEWISH MOTHER, HOW MY SON RUINED MY LIFE http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FRbL46mWx9w

ILLUSION: Very Good Illusionist Kevin Jameshttp://www.youtube.com/embed/Ai4tPe80S6Q?rel=0

A GENUINE AMAZON REVIEW WARNING ABOUT USING HAIR REMOVER http://www.amazon.co.uk/review/R231U4ZG0YDNHD

THREE YEAR OLD BOY CONDUCTING http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0REJ-lCGiKU

UNUSUAL BRASS ENSEMBLE http://www.wimp.com/brassband/

THE PATH FOR A PSYCHOLOGIST IN USA https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9ZaLipDgFZQ&feature=youtu.be

For Psychotherapists

American radio interview with psychoanalyst Christopher Bollas about his latest book Catch Them Before They Fall. The interview is 57 minutes long. He talks about his method of working with non-psychotic patients who during the course of analysis, experience break downs. For many years Bollas lived in London, working at the Tavistock. Now he is in Los Angeles. To prevent patients having a full break down, Bollas stepped up the hours of treatment for a period, sometimes two weeks, to twice a day, five days or seven days a week or to three full days, 9am – 6pm with a lunch break. He did this in order to prevent hospitalisation and to facilitate a breakthrough. He developed this way of working in London where he worked with a team of social workers and a psychiatrist, who understood his work and supported him. http://newbooksinpsychoanalysis.com/2013/03/26/christopher-bollas-catch-them-before-they-fall-the-psychoanalysis-of-breakdown-routledge-2013/ and listen here to an audio that is very goodhttp://files.newbooksnetwork.com/psychoanalysis/015psychoanalysisbollas.mp3

Planning for our death/incapacitation as therapists. Ethics, client-care and posthumous attending: preparing for therapist incapacitation or death in service, a practice-based issue.

https://www.researchgate.net/publication/344208526_Planning_for_our_deathincapacitation_as_therapists_Ethics_client-care_and_posthumous_attending_preparing_for_therapist_incapacitation_or_death_in_service_a_practice-based_issue

When the Therapist is in Crisis: Personal and Professional Implications for Small Community Psychotherapy Practices | American Journal of Psychotherapy

https://psychotherapy.psychiatryonline.org/doi/full/10.1176/appi.psychotherapy.2013.67.4.385