WRITTEN NOVEMBER 2020 – in the light of COVID 19
PESSO BOYDEN EXPERIENTIAL TWO DAY GROUPS ONLINE
Juliet has found a way to run PBSP groups online. Rather than the usual Zoom Rooms – she does it on Zoom webinars instead. This format has panelists – who are in the ‘main room’ and can be seen and heard, and attendees – who are not able to be seen or heard. Juliet moves partcipants between the two roles (panelist and attendee) during the workshop. For the check in, check out and sharing – everyone is a panelist. During a structure, just the client and therapist are panelists, and eveyone else is an attendee. If someone is asked to play a role, such as the Ideal Mother, they are promotoed to a panelist, so they can be seen and heard. The days run from 8.45am – approx 5.45pm GMT
JULIET WILL ALSO RUN A CLOSED EXPERIENTIAL PBSP ONLINE GROUP
This is for a small group of people who are willing to commit to 8 days over 8 months in 2 day blocks. This would suit anyone who finds that they build up trust in other people over time. If you cannot see a group advertised on the Calendar page, then please join the waiting list here https://forms.gle/vEUPYjVmvrpt5zPXA
WHAT OPTIONS ARE THERE FOR IN PERSON, FACE TO FACE, PBSP WORK WITH JULIET in 2021
At this stage (November 2020), the only face to face workshops Juliet is planning for 2021 are the two residentials. There will be one in March on 22-25 2021, and one in September 27-30 2021.
Neither of these residential workshops have any structure spaces left, though there are observer participant places left. We are currently taking people on a waiting list for structure places. NB People attending the residential as an observer participant will be given priority if a structure place becomes available. It is possible that Juliet will arrange a third residential if there are sufficient requests.
TO JOIN THE WAITING LIST FOR ONE OF THE FACE TO FACE, IN PERSON, RESIDENTIALS CLICK HERE
https://forms.gle/qSsMDYjrLnm9fYQR7 Due to Covid -19 we expect there may be places that become available, so do sign up if you are interested. And please keep the dates free!
WHAT EQUIPMENT DO YOU NEED FOR ONLINE WORKSHOPS
> A clear diary for 2 days – where you don’t have to pick up your children, the phone is switched off, and you have two days completely clear of all work and household committments
> A quiet space where the phone is switched off, you will not be interrupted or have people walking across the background
> Some people like to use headphones for privacy
> It is best to use a laptop rather than a phone or tablet
> It’s a good idea to have a box of tissues nearby, a glass of water, and a comfortable chair!
> It is important to have a good signal. Be close to your router – hard wired if possible
> Close down all other google pages and software that might be using wifi bandwidth
WHEN A STRUCTURE STARTS: ONLINE
Just before the structure starts Juliet sets it up so that just the client and Juliet are panelists, and everyone is an attendees (i.e. they are not visible on the main screen). Juliet also has a screen that she uses solely for placeholder(s) and doing holes in roles work. Thus we start with 3 screens. Juliet as therapist, the client and the placeholders / holes in roles screen.
When the client wants to enrol a figure to represent the voice of an ideal parent, let’s say an ideal mother,
> the client chooses the person
> Juliet changes their role from an attendee to a panelist, so they come into the main room and they can be seen and heard
> They rename themselves on their screen ‘Ideal Mother’
> The client chooses and enrols pillows/blankets etc to represent the Ideal Mother in the right place for them in the room they are in
> The person role-playing the Ideal Mother on the screen provides the voice for the client to hear, and eyes for the client to look into (if the client wants, Juliet can spotlight the ideal mother while they are talking – this makes her the main thing on the screen).
OBJECTS THE CLIENT WILL GATHER TO REPRESENT THE IDEAL FIGURES ONLINE (YOU DON’T NEED ALL OF THESE)
Clients are asked to have available a selection of things they can use to represent the Ideal Parents, for example:
> very large cushions are really useful to represent an ideal parent(s)
> long body pillow or bolster is good to represent an ideal parent(s)
> bean bag(s) and or wheat bag(s) (eg used for neck pain – these are on ebay for about £5) can represent the hand of an ideal parent, or their arm
> weighted blanket if you have one (I bought one for £20)
> soft blanket(s)
> a scarf or selection of scarves
The one proviso, is that no object should be ‘loaded’. In other words, if it is the most precious velvet cushion, hand sewn by your ex-girlfriend or ex-boyfriend, then we won’t use that. Or if it was a present from a father that you felt ambivalent towards, again, it might be best not to use that. Please only bring neutral objects – scarves, cushions, blankets etc.
WHY THE RESIDENTIALS ARE THE ONLY FACE TO FACE WORKSHOPS PLANNED AT PRESENT
The reason Juliet is planning residentials is that they feel safer than a 2 day group where people travel home on public transport at the end of the day, or go to a b and b or hotel, and/or eat in a restaurant. Once we have arrived at EarthSpirit and are ‘on site’, the group creates a ‘pod’. No one has to leave, and we don’t meet anyone else. Temperatures are taken every morning, and she will have finger prick blood tests on site for everyone to take at the start of the workshop, and she uses a ‘fogger’ to disinfect the room twice a day. More details are here https://therapyandcounselling.co.uk/covid-19-and-pbsp/
This, below, was written before the Covid 19 pandemic. As at November 2020 Juliet is not running any of these, and does not intend to in 2021, until the Covid 19 situation changes
IN PERSON, FACE TO FACE ONGOING GROUPS
Pesso Boyden System Psychomotor: Closed Ongoing Groups with Juliet Grayson, Open Workshop and Residential 4-day workshops.
The Pesso Boyden system is a profound body based therapy that aims to help clients to be more of who they truly are. The aim of PBSP is for clients to move towards living a life of pleasure, satisfaction, meaning and connectedness. A core principle of PBSP, as Al Pesso, the co-founder says, is that “we are made to be able to be happy in an imperfect world, that is endlessly unfolding.”
PBSP is an individual therapy that is usually done within a group (although one to one sessions are also possible). During a structure, whch is the name given to a client session, the client begins talking about what is happening right now, or about an issue that has been bothering them. The therapist will listen carefully, and help the client to become more aware of the way that they are thinking about this issue, by externalising the inner landscape of their mind. They will pay attention to where the root of the pattern may be found, which is often in the client’s history. Then, the therapist and client carefully co-create an alternative history, that more closely fits what the client needed as a child. This is done using group members to role play Ideal Figures that were needed in the client’s past. Thus we help the client to create a symbolic, believable, alternative history that is an improvement on the client’s real history. In PBSP we work with both the soul and the ego, to fill childhood deficits, develop the thinking part of the client, deepen their awareness of their own process, support them to integrate and unify their polarities (such as power and vulnerability, or mind and body), and help them to fulfill their unique potentiality.
The shape of the day for an ongoing group: the day starts with a brief introduction from each of the group members. Juliet will then facilitate four structures during the day, usually two before lunch and two after lunch. We close with a few words from group members.
Juliet Grayson runs three different ongoing groups in the UK. These are in South Wales (Chepstow), Bristol (Hanham), and London (Teddington). The Bristol and London groups meet for two whole days – four times a year (making a total of eight days). The Welsh group meets for 6 individual days spread over a year. Juliet also offers a 2 day workshop in (Oxfordshire) Didcot in July. She leads residential four-day PBSP workshops in Somerset (usually there is one in Spring and one in the Autumn).
The ongoing groups are closed for a year at a time, meaning that they do not take in new members. But once a year, each group ‘opens up’ and welcomes new members (subject to space).
The groups generally start, and take in new members the early part of the year (January). The costs depends on which group you join and how many structures you choose to have. Prices vary from from £450 for an observer participant place, £650 with one structure,£1250 for 3 structures, to £1900 if you want to have 5 structures. For more info see the calendar page.