Communication & Difference 17, 18 & 19 May 2024


For couple therapists and for
therapists who usually work one to one and
want to explore more about working with couples




Email to join the ‘reserve list’, or book onto the next course on Tuesday 16th – Thursday 18th July 2024


Dates: Friday 17th – Sunday 19th May 2024

Alternative date: Tuesday 16th – Thursday 18th July 2024 or Friday 4th – Sunday 6th October 2024

Location: Online

Times: 9.00 am(BST) start until 2.00pm(BST) each day.

Trainer: Nicola Jones Scroll down to see more about the trainer

Cost: £209 if booked by 17th March 2024,
                £229 if booked by 17th April 2024,
                £249 Full Price



Email to join the ‘reserve list’, or book onto the next course on Tuesday 16th – Thursday 18th July 2024

If your booking is accepted that means there was space for you.  If it is full, email to join the ‘reserve list’.  Then, if anyone drops out we will notify you, if there is a ‘last minute’ place  for you.  We will also let you know when we plan a new date.

Content of the course:
By the end of the workshop you will have:

  • Watched and analysed a video of a couple using decentring and communication skills
  • Practiced listening for values, and helping a couple to discover shared values
  • Learnt about 5 different thinking styles (meta-programmes) that people use
  • Understood how meta-programme differences are a significant source of conflict
  • Learn what your personal meta-programme preferences are
  • Learn about language patterns that make communication easier
  • Practiced working with these issues in a role play situation

The content for this workshop is based on the de-centring model of Dr Michael Crowe and Jane Ridley; and on meta-programmes from Neuro-Linguistic Programming


Nicola Jones is an experienced relationship therapist and an accomplished trainer and facilitator. She trained with and worked for Relate, trained with The Bowlby Centre for 2 years and is accredited by the National Counselling Society. She has an MA in Gender Studies, SOAS, University of London (2008). Nicola has supervision with those who worked with or were supervised by John Bowlby. She is Vice Chair of the International Attachment Network and works privately in Bristol with individuals, couples and families. Her first career was as a lawyer and family business adviser. Nicola has presented internationally on a range of matters related to social justice.



“This course really explained the importance of calibration, working with couples to understand effective communication for them and recognising meta messages”
Francine B. – Relationship Therapist

“The depth and quality of this training is second to none”
R. Smith – Psychological Therapist

“Would thoroughly recommend this training and Nicola is an excellent trainer”
Sarah V. – Psychotherapist


Maximum numbersThis workshop will have a maximum of 24 participants

Approved for CPD: This course has been approved by NCIP-  National Council Of Integrative Psychotherapists.  This course will give you 14 hours CPD

Our expectation: Is that you will attend this workshop for the full length of the course, have your video on, your mobile off,  and fully participate.

  • There are some online talks on zoom that allow you to come and go, or to choose not to participate in the exercise and breakout rooms.  This culture has started to creep into our workshops.  We have even had people say they want to leave to go and pick up children from school or walk their dog!  People dropping in and out is very disruptive – especially when there may be group exercises that are planned for the same group to participate in a number of times. 
  • Because of this, we want to be clear about our expectations.  This workshop has been planned with the assumption that you, and everyone else, will attend for the full time.
  • So please be clear, that if you book on this workshop, we expect you to attend for the whole time, to  participate in the breakout rooms and exercises and have your video switched on.
  • Please also put your mobile to one side and on silent – checking your phone or texting will mean that you miss material.  So we request that you only check your phone during breaks.  

Breaks: Generally, each day will include two breaks of about fifteen minutes each, and a five minute break.

 There is approximately 15-20 minutes of homework at the end of day 1

Slides and exercisesBefore the workshop you will be sent a copy of the slides and the exercises that you need for the workshop. 

Second set of handouts: After the workshop you will be asked to fill in a feedback form.  Completing this feedback form will give you a link to further handouts. Please write this link and password down, as you will need these to access the webpage where this comprehensive set of handouts are stored.  These handouts are available for you to download a copy onto your own desktop. You must complete the download within two weeks of the end of the workshop.  We ask you not to share any of the slides, exercises or handouts with other professionals who have not attended the workshop.  But you are welcome to share the occasional handout or page with clients.

Practice at being a therapistOne feature of our Working With Couples workshops is that there is an opportunity for everyone to practice being a therapist once during the training.  We will continue this in the online world using Zoom Breakout rooms.

Equipment you will needWe will use Zoom, so you would need a computer that has good enough internet access to be able to be online, and in a quiet spot where you won’t be disturbed.  It would be preferable if there are no people walking around in the background. An Iphone can be used in an emergency, but we recommend planning on using a laptop or computer.  Tablets also work, though please be aware that they have less functionality in Zoom.  The exercises and handouts will be sent to you approximately 1 week before the workshop.  Please print these BEFORE the workshop.  If you do not have access to a printer and needs the handouts printing and posting to you , please pay here £12.00 in the UK£15 in Europe, and email to  let us know that you need this.  Please give us 2 weeks notice to prepare and post these. 

This course, and working online: This course is not intended to be a comprehensive workshop about how to work couples online.  Our focus in these workshops is working with couples, and up until now this has always been face to face. Having said that, implicitly you will experience handling online technology, and will be doing ‘couples therapy’ roleplay in 3’s – where one is the therapist and two role play a couple – in  breakout rooms.  This mirrors doing couples therapy online, and will give you some skills practice at doing that.  However, to work with couples online will need further practice and training.

Six modules on how to work with couples: This course is part of the six module workshop organised by Juliet Grayson, for people who want to learn about working with couples or enhance their current skills.  For more info about the other modules go to

Therapists Insurance: By booking on this workshop you confirm that you have sufficient insurance to offer therapy to the public. (We are required by the NCIP, who accredit this workshop, to ask you to confirm this).  If there is any discrepancy please let us know by contacting

Cancellations: Any request to change (eg defer to alternative dates) or cancel your place at a workshop, that is made at less than 21 days before the course start date will be charged in full.  Any cancellation / amendments / requests to defer before 21 days, will be subject to a 12.5% handling charge. 

For more info: Look at or email: or call Juliet Grayson on 01291 638805

CPD form: A Certificate of Attendance form for Continuous Professional Development will be sent by email once you have filled in the feedback form.  Please let us know when you book your 6th workshop in the Working With Couples series.  We will ask you to return the 5 certificates from the other workshops, and we will prepare a smart Certificate in Couples Therapy that you can hang on your wall.

Final certificate: When you have completed all 6 workshops you can apply to have a smart Certificate in Couples Therapy to hang on your wall.  To claim this: please let us know when you book your 6th workshop in the Working With Couples series.  We will ask you to return the 5 certificates from the other workshops.  For more info see here:

Organised by Inter-action Training Ltd