Working with Kink 

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This training may be taken on its own or as part of a 6-day series leading to a: Certificate in Diversity within Contemporary Relationships, more info can be found here: Certificate in Diversity within Contemporary Relationships

Dates : Monday 4th August 2024   

Timing : 10am – 4pm (BST – UK time) with an hour break for lunch and 2 other short breaks. Please log on for 9.45am for prompt 10am start.

Trainer : Diane Hassall, scroll down to see more about the trainer

Location : Online

Cost : £110 if booked by 3rd September 2024, £125 if booked by 3rd October 2024, £140 full price

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If your booking is accepted that means there was space for you.  If it is full, email sambaker.pa@gmail.com to join the ‘reserve list’.  Then, if anyone drops out we will notify you, if there is a ‘last minute’ place  for you.  We will also let you know when we plan a new date.

 Please note, that the general rules of engagement of the profession (confidentiality etc) apply when attending this workshop.

 

This workshop is open to counsellors and psychotherapists who work one-to-one with clients, as well as relationship therapists, family therapists, psychosexual specialists, coaches, health workers and medics.  In fact any professional who wishes to explore the difference between pathological behaviour and what is commonly perceived as “kink”.  We define kink as a set of pleasurable activities that in other contexts are defined as not pleasurable or usual.  Kink is sometimes also known as BDSM. 

 

BDSM is a general term which applies to activities, fantasies, or scenes that involve a consensual exchange of power, where it’s agreed that one person has more power over another person (for a set period of time), such as in role play or in sadomasochistic practices. These rules are normally agreed in advance. It might involve physical control, sensory deprivation, restraint, pain, humiliation, and/or being told off. These things, in the ‘usual world’ might be perceived as unpleasant, but in kink may feel exhilarating.  A lot of people just fantasise about kink but don’t take it any further.

 

This seminar may be taken on its own or as part of a 5-day series leading to a: Certificate in Diversity within Contemporary Relationships

 

Learning outcomes

By the end of the training participants will have 

• Explored the range of ‘kink”
• Critically examined the difference between unusual sexual behaviour and pathologies 
• Considered the integration of kink into relationship styles 
• Examined critically and learnt to apply Dr Betty Martin’s Circle of Consent 

 

Trainer : Diane Hassall 

Di is an experienced Integrative Psychotherapist and Clinical Supervisor who specialises in Relationship and Psychosexual Therapy.  Much of her work is with people exploring gender, sexual or relationship diversity (GSRD).  Her clients bring issues around commitment, sexual identity, gender identity and/or transition, BDSM and kink, polyamory, non-monogamy and other types of relationships. She also works with people in trans-cultural, trans-racial relationships and/or those from differing religions.  

Di’s previous career was in HR, learning and development, communications and change management. People and relationships have always been her passion, so it was no surprise to those who know her when she became a psychotherapist!  

She is an Accredited Member of  NCIP and a Registered Member of COSRT

This workshop is open to counsellors and psychotherapists who work one-to-one with clients, as well as relationship therapists, family therapists, psychosexual specialists, coaches, health workers and medics.  In fact any professional who wishes to explore the difference between pathological behaviour and what is commonly perceived as “kink”.  We define kink as a set of pleasurable activities that in other contexts are defined as not pleasurable or usual.  Kink is sometimes also known as BDSM. 

BDSM is a general term which applies to activities, fantasies, or scenes that involve a consensual exchange of power, where it’s agreed that one person has more power over another person (for a set period of time), such as in role play or in sado masochistic practices. These rules are normally agreed in advance. It might involve physical control, sensory deprivation, restraint, pain, humiliation, and/or being told off. These things, in the ‘usual world’ might be perceived as unpleasant, but in kink may feel exhilarating.  A lot of people just fantasise about kink but don’t take it any further.

This training may be taken on its own or as part of a 5-day series leading to a: Certificate in Diversity within Contemporary Relationships, more info can be found here: Certificate in Diversity within Contemporary Relationships

Who should attend : This course is open to all counsellors, psychotherapists, psychosexual therapists, coaches and health workers who wish to deepen their thinking and understanding of kink. 

Maximum Number : 30

APPROVED FOR CPD : This course has been accredited by NCIP-  National Council Of Integrative Psychotherapists.  A Certificate of Attendance form for Continuous Professional Development for 5 hours will be sent by email once you have filled in the feedback form.  

OUR EXPECTATION : Is that you will attend this workshop for the full length of the course, have your video on, your mobile off,  and fully participate.

There are some online talks on zoom that allow you to come and go, or to choose not to participate in the exercise and breakout rooms.  This culture has started to creep into our workshops.  We have even had people say they want to leave to go and pick up children from school or walk their dog!  People dropping in and out is very disruptive – especially when there may be group exercises that are planned for the same group to participate in a number of times.  

Because of this, we want to be clear about our expectations.  This workshop has been planned with the assumption that you, and everyone else, will attend for the full time.

So please be clear, that if you book on this workshop, we expect you to attend for the whole time, to  participate in the breakout rooms and exercises and have your video switched on.

Please also put your mobile to one side and on silent – checking your phone or texting will mean that you miss material.  So we request that you only check your phone during breaks.  

SOMETHING WE ALL NEED TO BEAR IN MIND
When powerful feelings are revealed and processed, it is not unusual that our own psychological issues are triggered and flow into the mix.  Wilfred Bion is a respected name in the world of group working. He wrote extensively and cogently on issues that invariably occur in groups. We would like to agree basic guidelines with you – based on his findings – to ensure the success of our work together. Bion’s central focus was the disruption (he called it ‘resistance’) that may arise within a group that shifts it away from its agreed task.  Our focus, our agreed task for this workshop is NOT therapy for the members or to criticise others. 

Our agreed task is to offer teaching and learning related to diversity within contemporary relationships. 

To this end, our Certificate in Diversity within Contemporary Relationships welcomes and needs people to be courageous, and examine prejudice with tolerance and a minimum of defensiveness.  We need our workshops to be safe spaces, where participants can be vulnerable and supported if they make mistakes, as we all do.   We would like to remind you that we work within UK law and ethics (Gender Recognition, Equalities Act, MOU and Race) and will not tolerate non-compliance in any way.   We wholeheartedly support people courageously stepping forward, and anyone who is critical of this will not be welcome on this training and may be asked to leave.

 

This module is a part of the Certificate of Diversity Within Contemporary Relationships.  More info can be found here Certificate in Diversity within Contemporary Relationships

 

Therapists Insurance: By booking on this workshop you confirm that you have sufficient insurance to offer therapy to the public. (We are required by the NCIP, who accredit this workshop, to ask you to confirm this).  If there is any discrepancy please let us know by contacting jonstow.cyh@gmail.com

 

CANCELLATIONS : Any request to change (e.g. defer to alternative dates) or cancel your place at a workshop, that is made at less than 21 days before the course start date will be charged in full.  Any cancellation / amendments / requests to defer before 21 days, will be subject to a 12.5% handling charge.

 

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