A WORKSHOP FOR PEOPLE WITH SEXUALLY INAPPROPRIATE BEHAVIOUR, INCLUDING SEX OFFENDERS AND THOSE AT RISK OF OFFENDING AFTER 1 SESSION.
Juliet Grayson held a one day workshop with 4 men and 2 women. Three of the men self assessed as having (or having had) an issue around sexual acting out. One has been convicted and been given a community sentence. Another has been caught but not yet convicted. The third did not disclose what his behaviours were. There were 2 female volunteers present to play ‘roles’ in the PBSP work. They were briefed in general about the issues and that there were sex offenders at the workshop, and that they day was based around these issues.
Before the day started, the men were asked to fill in a questionnaire.
We began the day with a clear contract about confidentiality. We said we had legal imperatives to disclose if certain things were mentioned (which we specified), and we would not hesitate to do so. Apart from that caveat, the group agreed to hold confidentiality.
The 3 men gave Juliet permission to use information from questionnaires.
During the day each man had a structure session using the Pesso Boyden System Psychomotor (PBSP). There was also a discussion for 1 1/4 hours on sexual addictions, addiction to pornography, strategies for managing addiction, and triggers.
At the end of the day, each man filled in another questionnaire (with the same questions on). They did not see the answers they had given before the day began.
The questions all started with ‘How would you rate your…… ‘
FROM A FEEDBACK FORM FILLED IN A FEW DAYS LATER – COMMENTS FROM THE OFFENDERS:
During the two structures I watched I became very emotional about the clear and positive impact it was having on the recipients – it was extremely moving. I am convinced that the Pesso Boyden system was genuinely helpful and provided a deep healing effect for those two people.
With regard to learnings and insights, I realised during the course of the day that the quite serious emotional baggage I have carried through my childhood and into my adult life (which I’ve always known was there) has been having a negative impact on my life. I further realised that I would need to let this emotional baggage go in order to lead a genuinely fulfilling and happy life in the future. The day certainly helped to shine a light on that requirement and my goals are now a lot clearer.
I could recognise my own problems and feelings through others. I realise now just how important child rearing is.
The method is quite ‘wacky’ and at first it makes you feel uncomfortable and a bit cringey; but I see it has good potential in my self management. I think it is something you have to experience for yourself to see if it is for you. It has had a positive impact and I feel more confident that I am doing something positive towards my self help
An invaluable day to explore difficult feelings and thoughts. I’ve had a shift in expectations of other people, mainly close family. Some fog lifted. Very impressed with strangers who become generously intimate. The replacement ‘ideal’ parents image works, somehow. Rest of week was calm and productive, without desire to act out.
FROM A FEEDBACK FORM FILLED IN A FEW DAYS LATER – COMMENTS FROM THE PEOPLE THERE WHO HAD VOLUNTEERED TO PLAY ROLES – i.e. NON OFFENDERS.
It felt very ‘safe’.
I was interested in the structured style of the day and the reframing of past traumatic events. Compared to constellation work it seemed more controlled, and so more containing for working with damage and sexualised behaviour.
I loved it. I had never experienced working with Sex Offenders and my biggest thing was to not be judgemental. You just never know what someone is going through. I found it really poignant when the clients got very emotional about their childhood and it allowed me to look at mine.
I had no expectation coming to the Pesso day so I was really surprised at how open the clients were and willing to open themselves up for help..
Very useful indeed. What struck me was the similarities in personality traits as addicts. It doesn’t seem to matter what you are addidicted to, sex, food, drugs, etc, the traits are so very similar. I have found the more I have shared about my addiction, the more I learn about myself and others.
It was a pleasure to be part of the day, and you are truly great at what you do. I could really see that everyone involved got something out of the day.
WHEN ASKED HOW SATISFIED WERE YOU WITH JULIET AS A FACILITATOR
Average score 9 out of a possible score of 10