Lives of Quiet Desperation 31st March and 1st April 2022

Lives of Quiet Desperation
Therapeutic work with men

with Simon Roe and Lee Stagles

An online workshop for men and women who are
therapists, counsellors, social / health care workers and interested individuals.

Date   Thursday 31st March 2022 & Friday 1st April 2022
Time    9am – 1pm (GMT) on both days.

Please be ready to log on to check equipment from 8:45am, and allow 15 mins afterwards in case the workshop runs over. 


COST:  £85 if booked by 1st Feb 2022
£99 if booked by 1st March 2022                                                                         £115 Full Price


Alternative dates : June 24th and 25th 2022, September 9th and 10th 2022, December 1st and 2nd 2022

‘Most men lead lives of quiet desperation (& go to the grave with the song still in them)

The above quote, paraphrased from Henry Thoreau, seems as distressingly apt today as it did when it was written over 150 years ago. Despite the advances made by feminism, the ‘new age’ & the ‘men’s movement’ men are still notoriously reluctant to present for any kind of therapeutic support. Yet levels of depression, violence & suicide in men, particularly young men, are worryingly high. What is it that leads to this state of affairs? How, as practitioners, can we engage effectively with men? What unconscious biases or prejudices might we be holding that will interfere with or sabotage our work?

This training will provide participants with hands-on experience of a range of methods & approaches, which they can take away and add to their to add to their tool kits, including personal reflection, group and pair work, creativity, poetry & story.

Some of the topics we will explore include:-

  • Not measuring up’ – men and shame
  • ‘Boys don’t cry’ – men and grief
  • The dangers of ‘nice’ men
  • The ‘boy code’ – breaking the silence
  • Working with men’s anger & violence
  • Men and sex

Feedback from previous ‘Lives of Quiet Desperation’ participants

‘Simon’s depth of experience in running workshops for and about men was clearly evident. I recommend his course.’

‘This is the first time I have been able to grieve for my father – thank you.’

‘Simon’s workshop is very apposite; much needed at this time. He invites us to look very squarely and honestly at the male and masculine archetypes and find value and integrity. A challenging workshop for therapists and the therapy culture.

Simon Roe originally trained as a body psychotherapist with Nick Totton & Em Edmondson and has nearly 30 years’ experience of working with individuals and groups. For the last 25 years’ he has worked almost exclusively with men & teenage boys in a variety of settings including 1-1 psychotherapy, domestic violence work and Rites of Passage events. He is a Respect approved trainer & supervisor for domestic violence practitioners and is the director of Two Wolves Consultancy and Training Simon has recently completed a foundation course in Process Oriented Psychology – an approach which increasingly informs his practice.
Simon is a fully accredited member of the Association of Facilitators

Lee Stagles Is an embodiment coach (graduate of the Embodied Facilitator Course 2017), men’s work leader and facilitator.  He has 20 years of experience in engineering as a technician, manager and business owner. He is interested in behavioural patterns and simple systems design, engaging with the body through an Awareness, Acceptance & Intention paradigm. He brings his expertise in ritual, grief, relationships, parenting and separated parenting. Now, using story, nature and movement, he supports his clients to a better understanding of themselves, helping to equip them with the tools and practises to achieve their goals.  He also works with organisations (private and public sector) in the field of MensWork. His mission is ‘to leave the place better than I find it.’

EQUIPMENT YOU WILL NEED:  We will use Zoom, so you would need a computer that has good enough internet access to be able to be online, and in a quiet spot where you won’t be disturbed.  It would be preferable if there are no people walking around in the background. An Iphone can be used in an emergency, but we recommend planning on using a laptop or computer.  Tablets also work, though please be aware that they have less functionality in Zoom. 

MAXIMUM NUMBERS: This workshop will have a maximum of 23 participants

CANCELLATIONS: Any request to change (eg defer to alternative dates) or cancel your place at a workshop, that is made at less than 21 days before the course start date will be charged in full.  Any cancellation / amendments / requests to defer before 21 days, will be subject to a 12.5% handling charge.

FOR MORE INFO:  If you have further questions please email: or call Juliet Grayson on 01291 638805

CPD FORM: A Certificate of Attendance form for Continuous Professional Development for 7 hours will be sent by email once you have filled in the feedback form.  

Organised through Sleeping Mountain Ltd