Other Loves: Polyamory, Polygamy and Arranged Marriages 15 16 February 2024


This two-day Intensive is dedicated to exploring a wide range of relationship models taking into account culture, sexuality, gender rather than assuming that one size fits all.


Dates : Thursday 15th & Friday 16th February 2024     

Alternative dates: Mon 10th & Tue 11th June 2024 or Wed 11th & Thur Sept 12th 2024 or Sat 30th November & Sun 2st Dec 2024

Timing : 12pm – 6pm (GMT). Please log-in at 11.45am (GMT) for prompt 12pm start. 

TRAINER : Diane Hassall Scroll down to see more about the trainer


Cost : £190 if booked by 14th December 2023 , £215 if booked by 14th Jan 2024, £235 full price



By the end of the training participants will have

  • Learnt to differentiate skill sets appropriate to working with two-person intimate systems, multiple intimate systems and “arranged marriages”
  • Enhanced therapeutic skills in working with multiple partner relationships 
  • Critically examined a wide range of relationships styles 
  • Learned how to adjust couples therapy skills when working with arranged marriages
  • Appreciated the difference between individualist and collectivist cultures 

The workshop will lean into what we can learn from those cultures to expand our own understanding of conventional notions of coupledom.

This training includes theoretical presentations, working in pairs and triads, case studies and live supervision. 

Please note, that the general rules of engagement of the profession (confidentiality etc) apply when attending this workshop               


Di is an experienced Integrative Psychotherapist and Clinical Supervisor who specialises in Relationship and Psychosexual Therapy.  Much of her work is with people exploring gender, sexual or relationship diversity (GSRD).  Her clients bring issues around commitment, sexual identity, gender identity and/or transition, BDSM and kink, polyamory, non-monogamy and other types of relationships. She also works with people in trans-cultural, trans-racial relationships and/or those from differing religions.  

Di’s previous career was in HR, learning and development, communications and change management. People and relationships have always been her passion, so it was no surprise to those who know her when she became a psychotherapist!  

She is an Accredited Member of  NCIP and a Registered Member of COSRT



We recognise that few of us had the training, the supervision or the experience to work with more than two in the consulting room and yet we are meant to work within our competence. Our view of relationships as always based on romantic or sexual attraction might not serve all client populations.  Most therapists will recognise that individual therapy skills are inappropriate to working with dual intimate systems, often referred to as “couples”.

The role of the therapist is different when the client is a couple (rather than two individuals) and the skills are fundamentally different. Many therapists will find the step from individual to couples therapy daunting in itself.  This course is suitable for therapists who work one-to-one as well as those who are established as couple therapists.  

Furthermore, our clients who identify as culturally different may challenge our way of thinking.  Some clients may identify as polyamorous and consider themselves as “multiple partnered”.  Others consider polygamy as the norm, and others may have met their partner through an arranged marriage.  Each of these require a different skills set. 

During the two days, we will explore and learn specific skills for welcoming and working with:

  • couples (an intimate dual system)
  • multiple partner relationships
  • non-eurocentric relationships
    • including arranged marriages and
    • polygamous ones
  • clients from collectivist cultures rather than individualist culture
  • erotically marginalised client groups

 Participants will be supported in:

  • recognising and adjusting our communication which may sound
    • discriminatory,
    • hostile,
    • including micro aggressions and
    • overt prejudice
  • exploring (counter)transference in this work. 


APPROVED FOR CPD : This course has been approved by NCIP-  National Council Of Integrative Psychotherapists.  A Certificate of Attendance form for Continuous Professional Development for 10 hours will be sent by email once you have filled in the feedback form.  

When powerful feelings are revealed and processed, it is not unusual that our own psychological issues are triggered and flow into the mix.  Wilfred Bion is a respected name in the world of group working. He wrote extensively and cogently on issues that invariably occur in groups. We would like to agree basic guidelines with you – based on his findings – to ensure the success of our work together. Bion’s central focus was the disruption (he called it ‘resistance’) that may arise within a group that shifts it away from its agreed task.  Our focus, our agreed task for this workshop is NOT therapy for the members or to criticise others.  OUR AGREED TASK IS TO OFFER TEACHING AND LEARNING RELATED TO DIVERSITY WITHIN CONTEMPORARY RELATIONSHIPS. 

To this end, our Certificate in Diversity within Contemporary Relationships welcomes and needs people to be courageous, and examine prejudice with tolerance and a minimum of defensiveness.  We need our workshops to be safe spaces, where participants can be vulnerable and supported if they make mistakes, as we all do.   We would like to remind you that we work within UK law and ethics (Gender Recognition, Equalities Act, MOU and Race) and will not tolerate non-compliance in any way.   We wholeheartedly support people courageously stepping forward, and anyone who is critical of this will not be welcome on this training and may be asked to leave.


There are some online talks on zoom that allow you to come and go, or to choose not to participate in the exercise and breakout rooms.  This culture has started to creep into our workshops.  We have even had people say they want to leave to go and pick up children from school or walk their dog!  People dropping in and out is very disruptive – especially when there may be group exercises that are planned for the same group to participate in a number of times.  

Because of this, we want to be clear about our expectations.  This workshop has been planned with the assumption that you, and everyone else, will attend for the full time.  SO PLEASE BE CLEAR, THAT IF YOU BOOK ON THIS WORKSHOP, WE EXPECT YOU TO ATTEND FOR THE WHOLE TIME, TO  PARTICIPATE IN THE BREAKOUT ROOMS AND EXERCISES AND HAVE YOUR VIDEO SWITCHED ON.

Please also put your mobile to one side and on silent – checking your phone or texting will mean that you miss material.  So we request that you only check your phone during breaks.  

HANDOUTS : You will get a copy of the slides before the workshop

Therapists Insurance: By booking on this workshop you confirm that you have sufficient insurance to offer therapy to the public. (We are required by the NCIP, who accredit this workshop, to ask you to confirm this).  If there is any discrepancy please let us know by contacting jonstow.cyh@gmail.com

CANCELLATIONS : Any request to change (eg defer to alternative dates) or cancel your place at a workshop, that is made at less than 21 days before the course start date will be charged in full.  Any cancellation / amendments / requests to defer before 21 days, will be subject to a 12.5% handling charge.

Organised through Sleeping Mountain Ltd