The Boy Code eats into the lives of boys and men, denying them choice and self-respect, instilling an inability to articulate feelings, and a pernicious sense of shame around ‘not measuring up’, that must be hidden at all costs.

Simon Roe and William Ayot reconvene to deepen their exploration of the Boy Code and its withering effects. How might we be colluding with the Boy Code? What can we do about it? How can we loosen its grip on those we love – and upon ourselves.

It’s complicated. We can’t simply eradicate it or expunge it from our lives. These living parts of us need challenging, certainly, but they also need to be welcomed and recognised – for the protection they may have given us – or may give us in the future.

What we can be sure of is that we need to access our grief. In the company of other men we need to grieve, to accept our vulnerability and witness that of others. In a world of hardening hearts and ‘right-hard-men’, we need to learn to shudder.

Join William and Simon as they deepen their understanding of themselves, and others, as men and seek to develop the tools necessary to face a daunting and uncertain future.

This is an experiential workshop for men and women. You do not have to have attended part 1 (which happened on December 6th 2023.)

• Deepen awareness and understanding of men’s issues.

• Extend knowledge around social pressures on boys, youths and men.

• Provide means of honouring and working with often derided and dismissed aspects of the male experience .

Who is This Workshop Appropriate For?

• This is an experiential workshop for men and women. In particular, therapists, coaches and facilitators, and those members of the general public interested in men’s issues.

How May This Workshop Impact Your Practice?

• Provides an overview of key issues and childhood conditioning in men.

Resources can be found on https://williamayot.com/resources-boy-code-2/

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Simon Roe and William Ayot will be leading an in person, residential workshop for men “Exploring Male Rites of Passage: Men and the Long Road Home” on 25-29 Feb 2024 in Somerset

https://therapyandcounselling.co.uk/workshop-for-men-feb-2024/

There are some bursary places available for this workshop.

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William Ayot

William Ayot is an award-winning poet, author, teacher and ritualist. Over three decades, he has organized, hosted, facilitated and led, men’s and mixed personal development events and rites of passage, working in rehab, correctional, personal development and organizational contexts. He uses poetry and the arts to teach leadership in boardrooms and business schools around the world, currently teaching on the Advanced Management Programme at INSEAD. William also designs and leads bespoke rituals for individuals and groups in his purpose-built ritual garden in Monmouthshire, Wales. Writing includes the play, Bengal Lancer, three collections of poetry, and a prose book on ritual. He is currently writing a book for and about men in a time of epochal change.

William leads personal tailor-made rituals for people in South Wales, UK. He is available for one-to-one coaching online.

Website | www.williamayot.com

LinkedIn | William Ayot

Books for Sale | williamayot.com/shop/

• Re-enchanting the Forest: Meaningful Ritual in a Secular World (Short-listed for the People’s Book Prize 2016. Non fiction – about ritual.)

• The Inheritance by William Ayot (Poetry)

• Small Things that Matter by William Ayot (Poetry)

• E-mail from the Soul: New & Selected Leadership Poems (Winner of The People’s Book Prize Special Achievement Award 2013)

Simon Roe

Simon Roe originally trained as a body psychotherapist with Nick Totton & Em Edmondson and has nearly 30 years’ experience of working with individuals and groups. For the last 25 years’ he has worked almost exclusively with men & teenage boys in a variety of settings including 1-1 psychotherapy, domestic violence work and Rites of Passage events. He is a Respect approved trainer & supervisor for domestic violence practitioners and is the director of Two Wolves Consultancy and Training. Simon has recently completed a foundation course in Process Oriented Psychology – an approach which increasingly informs his practice. Simon is a fully accredited member of the Association of Facilitators.

Simon Roe regularly leads an online programme called Lives of Quiet Desperation: Therapeutic Work with Men, with Lee Stagles. Dates can be found at https://therapyandcounselling.co.uk/

Simon and William both have pre-recorded on demand talks available on https://jandw.thinkific.com/

For the full list of pre-recorded talks see https://therapyandcounselling.co.uk/recordings-of-talks/

For a list of other workshops organised by Sleeping Mountain Limited see https://therapyandcounselling.co.uk/

To join mailing list – and be updated on events that are happening https://williamayot.com/sign-up/

William and Simon intend to start an online, ongoing men’s programme following these talks. For more details email info@williamayot.com