RESOURCES FOR THE TALK
‘DO YOU DISCUSS SEX WITH YOUR CLIENTS’
given on 15 December 2022 by
JULIET GRAYSON
for
ONLINE EVENTS
What Juliet Grayson discovered when talking to ‘general’ therapists, is that most of them will wait for the client to raise sexual issues. However, clients who come for psychosexual therapy say they were unable to raise the topic of sex with their one-to-one therapist, because the therapist gave no indication that they were willing to explore that area. So, although it is a very important part of life that we all have to deal with, sex often gets left out of the therapy room. This talk is for those therapists that get brave enough to ask their clients about their sex lives.
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RESIDENTIAL WORKSHOP FOR MEN WITH WILLIAM AYOT AND SIMON ROE
Facing the Four Horsemen – war, famine, pestilence and death: Exploring Male Mysteries Through Times of Crisis and Change
Starts Feb 27th in Somerset
https://therapyandcounselling.co.uk/facing-the-four-horsemen
THINGS JULIET GRAYSON MENTIONED DURING THE TALK
Landscapes of the Heart: The Working World of a Sex and Relationship Therapist – book by Juliet Grayson https://landscapesoftheheart.co.uk/
Therapy With Couples – book by Michael Crowe and Jane Ridley
The Inheritance – book by William Ayot https://williamayot.com/shop/
Poems Juliet read: “Frozen Rabbit.” “Spent.” www.williamayot.com
Non genital sensate focus: a programme of mindful touching, or non-arousal focused touch.
Eros Therapy Device Clitoral Stimulator by NuGyn https://www.eros-therapy.com/ About £200 only available from USA
Rapport Vacuum Device by Owen Mumford
Rapport Ring with applicator £40 https://www.stressnomore.co.uk/rapport-rings-80093.html
Penile scrotal ring
Cock ring
Cialis – Tadalafil
Viagra – Sildenafil
Amielle Trainers for vaginismus – Genito-pelvic pain/ penetration disorder
(GPPPD)
Pubococcygeal muscles or PC muscle are a hammock-like muscles, found in both sexes, that stretch from the pubic bone to the coccyx (tail bone) forming the floor of the pelvic cavity and supporting the pelvic organs. You can exercise and strenghten these muscles by clenching and releasing, which takes blood into the genital area, and will help (a bit) with many sexual issues.
The Great Wall of Vagina – https://www.thegreatwallofvulva.com/
PESSO BOYDEN SYSTEM OF PSYCHOTHERAPY
- PBSP is a body based method of psychotherapy that Juliet loves!
- Short video clip of Bessel van der Kolk about Pesso Boyden Psychotherapy: “I should do much more of it, because it’s the only thing that I feel really works,and that’s the stuff I learned from Al Pesso is to actually give people a visceral experience of what it would have been like as a small kid to have people be there for you.” Bessel Van Der Kolk https://youtu.be/Z47T7TJpf6M
- Other resources about PBSP https://therapyandcounselling.co.uk/pbsp
- Details about training as a Pesso Boyden Therapist (next training begins in April 2023 https://pessoboydentraininguk.com/pesso-boyden-therapist-training-course-dates/
- Videos and talks and demonstrations of client work using this method are available on https://jandw.thinkific.com/
OTHER RESOURCES
SEXUAL DURATION CALCULATOR
The average duration of sexual intercourse is taken as the time spent from entering the vagina to ejaculation for men. This duration of intercourse varies according to the age of the men; his ethnicity, country of origin and whether he is circumcised or not.
If you are curious to know how you compare with others use this calculator. Ideally use a stop-watch and note your duration. This would enable us to give better results in the future.
https://www.medindia.net/patients/calculators/sex-duration-Calculator-result.asp
LUBRICANT
Yes lubricant – organic – if dryness is a big problem – use oil based one next to skin and water based one on top of that – Yesyesyes.org
PELVIC PHYSIOTHERAPY
https://thepogp.co.uk/ pelvic obstetric and gynaecological physiotherapy.